Care For Orphans…

i read a blog-post on Rage Against the Minivan entitled ” You Don’t Need to Adopt to Care For Orphans.” and she is absolutely right! You don’t have to adopt to show that you care and want to help. The post list wonderful ways you can help, please go over, have a read and consider making some of those suggestions a part of your life.

Today i want to take just one of those suggestions and expand on it a little more:

Consider adopting a teen who is aging out – There is something profoundly heartbreaking in reading the photo-listings of children who have turned 18 and who, despite being old enough to live independently, place themselves on national photo-listings because they desperately want a family. Many of these teenagers have college plans or career aspirations and are really looking for the moral support of a family as they enter adulthood. Everyone deserves to have a consistent place to land for the holidays, rituals, and celebrations in life. Maybe you have that to give.

She is talking from the viewpoint of domestic adoptions within the US, but i would like to ask you to consider the teen orphans who are in countries where their abilities and worth are in doubt simply because they have some form of special needs.

These teens have spent most of their lives in an orphanage or institution. It is uncertain if they are given an education but regardless, they will never get the opportunities they deserve, they will never be fully accepted into the society they are born into because of their special needs such as Down Syndrome, limb disability, mental delays etc.

They deserve to know that they are valued, just as they are. They need the support of a loving family to help them through the difficulties of their special needs. They want a caring mummy and daddy to call their own. They should be given the opportunities to show off what they are truly capable of.

Please allow me to introduce:

Shaina

She has ONLY A FEW WEEKS (before end of June 2013) before she ages out of the system! We need a miracle here for her to have a family of her own. She has Down Syndrome and physical and mental delays. But she is said to be expressive with body language and is  kind and sincere.

Are you her forever family? If yes, please contact Reece’s Rainbow immediately for details.

Daniel

He is an active, friendly and affectionate child. He likes to play with and greet people. He enjoys cleaning and keeping a room tidy and is sensitive to the needs of others. He has Down Syndrome. He would do wonderfully in a loving family. He has till July 2013 (less than 2 months) to find a family.

Are you that loving family? If yes , please contact Reece’s Rainbow at once for details.

Matthew-John

He has an amazing smile, don’t you think? He is extroverted in character, and is an active and lovely child. His temper is very obstinate. He gets along well with children in his institute and likes playing games with other children, swinging and playing football. He is well-loved by those who know him. He suffers from an absence of left frontal skull bone and dyskinesia of right limbs. He has until September 2013 (less than 4 months) to have a family of his own. Matthew has a VERY large grant available through Lifesong, as well!

Could you be the family to love him just as he is? If yes, please contact Reece’s Rainbow asap for details.

Erin

She has been at the institute since her infancy. She has been diagnosed with aural atresia of both ears, auricle deformity, and delays in intelligence and growth development. But she is still fairly independent and is also able to help with chores such as sweeping the floor. Her language development is limited, but she can say goodbye to others and can understand gestures. She is a sweet girl who likes to be cuddled and enjoys playing with her good friends. She ages out in November 2013 (less than 6 months).

Could you be her family? If yes, please contact Reece’s Rainbow without delay for details.

Eddy

She has delayed development and amyotrophy of the left lower limb. Her mental, motor and language and emotional abilities are delayed. She can walk alone, her gait is abnormal. She likes to play games, obeys the rules, and can get along well with others. She needs a family who understands that she is very delayed in many aspects of her life, including behavior. She needs a family to come for her by January 2014 (less than 8 months).

Are you that understanding family? If yes, please contact Reece’s Rainbow promptly for details.

These young teens live in a country where adoptions are not commonplace and adoption of a special needs child is rare and adoption of an older special needs child is almost unheard of! So an international adoption is likely the best way for them to have a forever family.

Here is where you can help even if you are not able to adopt:

  • You can share their stories far and wide so that their forever families may be found. Time is of the essence here! Social media sharing is one of the best ways to do this.
  • You can pray for them. Pray very hard that their forever family be courageous and step forward for them today. Pray that their daily and medical needs be met.
  • You can give towards their adoption grants so that their forever family’s very expensive international journey to them would have fewer hurdles. Click on their pictures or names to go to their individual profile page to donate.

Thank you.

syc

PS: there are a few other children in Eastern Europe who are also aging out. Please view details here.

Why Adopt Special Needs Children…

i have been advocating for special needs adoption for almost 18 months now. It has been a wonderful journey filled with lots of heartache, tears but also with joy and miracles. And of course the question in the title has been asked of me as well (even though i am not adopting – yet…).

i came across this video and felt that it answered quite a few of aspects of the why… take a look and then read what else i have to say about this…

In the video, Elizabeth speaks about the fate of children who age out of the adoption system in their country. She speaks of how when they are shown the door at 16. They have no money, no family, no friends, little skills or education to help them survive outside of the institute-environment. My heart absolutely breaks when she speaks about post-orphan stats from Russia… 20% commit suicide in under 2 years, 20% become prostitutes, 30% harden criminals, 10% in prisons…

Sweet Wesley has been waiting so very long for his forever family.
Sweet Wesley has been waiting so very long for his forever family.

i have been advocating for Wesley since last November and i know he also faces similar odds. Although Wesley‘s home country does not have such post-orphan stats, you can read this article which briefly describes what may happen to him if he is not adopted. His chance for a family is lost much earlier than 16, he will age out at 14 years old which means he has less than 15 months to be adopted.

You may look at his condition (albinism and vision problems) and think, “That’s not too bad. And he looks to be ok in the photo, quite well-taken care of, yes? He would likely find a job, right?”.

Sure, maybe if he was living in a different country. You have to understand that he sticks out like a sore-thumb in his country because of his skin colour. His vision problems will be a major issue even if he tries getting the jobs which are normally for the very lowly educated. He will not be accepted by the society he has been born into, in fact, some people from his country would consider him cursed even. (Which i believe is a contributing factor to him being abandoned at age 6.) And his government would only provide him food, clothing and shelter for just a few more years before he has to fend for him in this cold world, with almost no education or skills.

So you see, the odds are indeed against Wesley. Unless a family steps forward for him. Unless, like Elizabeth and Eric, some loving couple (or a caring mum) answers yes to God’s call to bring him into their home.

Are you the family who would answer YES and trust God to provide everything else to bring Wesley into your home? To care and love him for who he is? To support and provide him with opportunities he would otherwise never have? If you answered yes, then please contact Reece’s Rainbow for more details.

Not everyone is called to adopt. BUT everyone can help. (i will write more about that tomorrow).

Here’s how you can help Wesley:

  1. You can share his story far and wide so that through your sharing, somehow, his forever family might find him.
  2. You can pray for him. Pray for his daily needs, pray for his future and most importantly pray that God gives courage to a caring family to step up for him.
  3. You can also help to grow his adoption grant which would ease the journey his forever family would have in reaching him. As i mentioned above, acceptance of his condition is rare in his home country so an expensive international adoption would be his chance for a family. You can contribute by clicking on his name or picture to get to his profile page.

You can go here to read what another advocate has to say about Wesley.

Thank you.

syc

They Could Be Brothers…

Who am i talking about?

i’m talking about Wesley and Shane. You all know Wesley, whom i have been shouting out for and praying for since October 2012. And i have written about Shane before too (read here). i’m now both Wesley‘s and Shane‘s prayer warrior.

Dear Shane has been waiting so long for a family.
Dear Shane has been waiting so long for a family.
Sweet Wesley needs a family to help him live a full life.
Sweet Wesley needs a family to help him live a full life.

Do you see what i mean by they could be brothers? But they are not. They are in the same country, but different regions. They are, however, born in the same month of the same year, which sadly means that they will both be aging out of the adoption system in their country in less than 15 months!

They share the label of ‘orphan’ and they both have the same condition, albinism and vision issues (which are really minor special needs – you can read more in this post). They both need loving families to care for them, to give them the opportunities which their current situation does not afford them.

Won’t it be wonderful if they were both adopted by the same family? Even if they aren’t, just having a family to love and support them would mean that these boys can have the chance to show off what they are truly capable of. 

They need a mummy and a daddy who see the beauty they have inside of them and outside too.

i was recently introduced to Positive Exposure, a not-for-profit organisation, which utilizes photography and video to transform public perceptions of people living with genetic, physical and behavioral differences – from albinism to autism. (Their) educational and advocacy programs reach around the globe to promote a more inclusive, compassionate world where differences are celebrated.

i think what this organisation is doing is a most wonderful thing! i hope, pray and wish everyone can be introduced to their program and learn to accept other people’s difference and not judge based on appearances.

The founder, Rick Guidotti, puts it well:

“…it was essential for people to understand and see the beauty in our shared humanity…”

So can you, would you see the beauty in these 2 handsome boys? Look beyond their skin colour, their eye problems and see them for who they are; young boys who need a loving family to help them navigate this world which is full of prejudice.

Could you be that family who welcomes them into your home and be blessed with a little more beauty in your lives? If yes, please contact Reece’s Rainbow to find out more.

You don’t have to adopt to make a difference to Wesley and Shane. You can do a very simple thing; you can pray for them, pray for their daily needs and most of all, pray for a forever family to come for them. If you would like to commit to praying for them (or just one of them) regularly, please do sign up to be a prayer warrior for them (like i am).

You can do another practical thing to help. You can share their stories with everyone you know. With the power of social media, we never know who we can reach. So please do share their stories. They need a family and you can help.

There is one more thing you do. You can give towards their adoption grant. Click on their picture or name to go to their individual profile page to contribute.

Wesley currently has US$1487.90 in his grant, because many of you were so generous in giving to the giveaway we ran last November. But he would need more because the costs of all the paperwork to adopt is just so high. So please give whatever you can. Every bit counts.

Shane currently has only US$27.50 in his grant, which is really nothing when you find out that the average adoption (we are talking about international adoption because their home country’s society isn’t big on domestic adoptions of special needs children) costs somewhere between US$25,000 to US$40,000. So do give generously. Again, every little amount counts.

Thank you for caring for these boys.

syc