A Fall, Two Breaks, One Surgery…

Happy New Year!! It’s 2017!

Now i had debated with myself a few times whether or not i should blog about this, since it is sort of in the past, it happened in the year gone by… but i decided that such an incident needed to be recorded in some way.

So i am going to be looking back at nine days before the Christmas of 2016. It was Friday, 16th December 2016.

i had almost finished grocery shopping and was going to meet my friend for our usual weekly writing session when my mobile rang. It was not a number i immediately recognised. i picked up and heard the familiar voice of my boy’s teacher.

She asked where i was and if i could sit down. Then she told me not to panic, that Tobias had fallen in gym class and she had to call the ambulance, which was on its way. She didn’t think it was serious but said i should meet them at the hospital.

i finished up the shopping, left a message for my friend and headed to the hospital. i arrived at the ER and asked about Tobias but he had not been brought in yet. The lady even kindly checked with the private pediatric practice within the hospital. i was told to wait.

While waiting, i overheard a triage nurse say Tobias’ name. i stood outside her door till she was off the phone with the ambulance. She had already seen me at her door, even before she got off the phone. She immediately identified me as Tobias’ mother and directed me to the private pediatric practice because that is where she directed the EMTs to bring Tobias.

i texted my friends to be praying while i waited. It was 9.30am.

When Tobias arrived, at about 10am, he seemed rather oozy, which the EMT said was due to the pain meds. His teacher was with him and she was very kind and supportive. His forearms were in splints. The pediatrician came in and had a looked. When he lifted Tobias’ right arm up, i knew it was broken.

i found out, from the EMT’s description, how it happened. Tobias was in gym class, on the rings, he dismounted, fell backward and put his arms out behind him to break his fall. The ENT said it was a very classic fall and break.

We were sent for an x-ray. One of the nurses from the practice accompanied us throughout. Then i was shown the x-ray by the pediatrician, which showed that both Tobias’ arms were broken. He told us that he had already spoken to the head of orthopedics at the hospital, who was experienced in treating such injuries in children, so we were sent back to the ER to await admission paperwork and treatment.

While we waited in a treatment room in the ER, we had a variety of doctors and nurses come by. The first was the second in charge of ortho, who explained what was going to happen. Then a nurse came in to put in a drip line. Another brought more pain meds. Then the anesthesiologist.  Then another member of the ortho team. Finally, at about 1pm, we were transferred to the ward to await surgery which was scheduled at 5pm.

 

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Waiting for surgery…

 

My dear friend came and sat with Tobias in the ward so i could go home with the groceries and get some overnight stuff together. Thank you my dear… again.

We ordered our meals (my dinner and our breakfast and lunch) from the hospital menu. More pain meds were given. We got to chat with Tobias’ roommate, an older gentlemen, who seemed to have been in hospital for a while. Tobias’ teacher rang to find out what was happening and was devasted that both his arms had broken. She was surprised at how calm i sounded. i was strangely calm and i attribute that to the many prayers prayed on our behalf by dear friends. Thank you.

The surgery was delayed by an hour. i was allowed to walk him down to surgery. Then i went to pick Walter up from the train station. He was coming back from a business trip.

i picked up a few more things at home and he dropped me off again at the hospital before heading to his company’s Christmas event. There was no point in both of us staying at the hospital, waiting.

The nurses were very nice to keep aside my dinner for me and they served it to me at the little table where visitors usually sat and had a chat/tea with the patients.

A little after 8pm, the surgeon rang the ward and told me all had gone well and that Tobias would be wheeled to recovery soon. An hour after that, the recovery nurse called and said i could come down and sit with him.

 

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Post-surgery…

 

At about 10pm, we were back in the ward. Walter then came by and visited quickly (he was only allowed in for a short time) before heading home. i spent the night sleeping in an armchair with a footrest, next to Tobias’ bed. The nurses were very apologetic that there was no bed available for me and found the most comfortable chair they could for me, one which could lean back a bit, along with pillows and two blankets.

The next morning, Tobias woke up in good spirits and realised that he would not be able to play games for a while and he was upset that he might not be able to open his Christmas presents. i assured him it would be fine. We washed up and then breakfast was served.

A doctor came in to check his bandages. Then the surgeon came in, checked and said we could go home this afternoon. The second in charge then came in with discharge papers and meds prescription. Then it was lunch.

While we were waiting for the nurse to come and remove the drip line, Tobias’ teacher came to visit and even brought a gift, audio books. It was very thoughtful of her. She said in all her 20 over years of teaching, this was the first time she had to call for an ambulance.

After Tobias’ drip was removed, we paid for my meals and went home.

So it has been 3 weeks now. We have had his initial post-op bandages changed to a much slimmer one, which has helped with the mobility of his hands. In 2 weeks, we go to the surgeon to see if the bones have healed nicely. If so, then the wires will be removed and he will out of the casts.

 

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Casts with his friends’ signatures on them…

 

With casts on both arms and being allowed to only lift the weight of a glass of water, Tobias needed help in almost everything. We also saw serious bruising on his left arm which needed daily massages for a number of days to get rid of the blood pooling from the surgery site.

All along this journey, people have been kind and helpful and patient. i thank you all for your love, care and concern. Tobias’ friends and teachers have also been wonderful; being patient and helpful, getting their mums to text to ask how he was, visiting on their way to and from school.It has been a trying few weeks in which we had to have lots of patience. But the light at the end of the tunnel can be seen and we pray for full recovery.

It has been a trying few weeks in which we had to have lots of patience. But the light at the end of the tunnel can be seen and we pray for full recovery.

Do pray along with us. Thank you.

syc

OrphanS of the Month for September… Angel Crafts Shop…

This is my first post to highlight 2 orphans from the Older Child Grant (Other Angels) on Reece’s Rainbow. i was scrolling through the very long list and i keep thinking, “Oh this child. Oh, this one too. What about him? Or her? …” There are just SO MANY children who are in need of loving families… sometimes it seems overwhelming…

BUT i am reminded of the Starfish Story… where the final line says, “But it made a difference to this one…”

So one at a time, i will try my best to shout out for these precious children.

Now let’s meet DEAN!

deanMy boy and i have been praying for DEAN for a couple of years now. We pray each night for a family to come for him. And now he is so near to aging out… he has just another year before he is no longer adoptable under the laws of his home country.

DEAN has lived at the institute since he was 5 years old. He is now 13. He has mental delays but now has self-management skills, including toileting and gets along well with others. He can do simple chores as well. He is shy and i believe would really bloom with the care of a loving family. He has been waiting so very long already. Please see him for the wonderful boy he is and the amazing boy he can become.

Now meet ELIJAH!

elijah-3-200x300Like DEAN, ELIJAH was also left at the institute when he was 5 years old. He is 13 years old now. 8 years ago, when he was diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy, he was unable to walk. Through his own sheer determination, he can now walk slowly holding onto handrails. He is strong-willed, obedient and sensible. The staff at the institute adores him and hopes he get a wonderful family really soon. i know he would just thrive surrounded by a family he can call his own.

Both DEAN and ELIJAH age out in 2017. ELIJAH has only till June 2017 and DEAN till September 2017. They need families to step forward for them NOW!

Life would be very difficult for them in their home countries as adults with diabilities and there exist still a certain amount of social prejudice, which is not in their favour at all. Their hope of a full life is outside of their country. So an expensive international adoption would be the option.

Please HELP DEAN and ELIJAH by first of all, PRAYING for them. Praying for loving families to see them and step up for them. Second, SHARE their stories so more will know and more can help. Thirdly, you can help by SHOPPING at Angel Crafts Shop, where 50% of all sales goes to the group funds for them. 

DEAN and ELIJAH are eligible for a US$10,000 grant from Reece’s Rainbow, under their Older Child (Other Angels) Grant. Please click here for details of that grant.

Please click on DEAN‘s and ELIJAH‘s name and pictures to read more about them.

Thank you very much.

syc

Lessons from My Garden…

i have been gardening… and a couple of weeks ago, against the better advice of experienced gardeners, i allowed my OCB self to convince me into uprooting a young pumpkin plant and re-planting it further along the plot.

You see, i got these 3 pumpkin plants as a group from an experienced gardener who grew them lovingly from seed. They were all in the same pot when they came to me, i thought i will not risk splitting them up. So i popped them into the ground as they were, roots all entangled and everything. And they GREW!

lessonfrommygarden20160708aFrom the above picture, taken at the start of June, they have more than tripled in size. So you can see that the left side was getting crowded and if they grow some more and start fruiting…

Anyhow, i decided (yes, against better advice) to make the plot bigger and move the biggest one to the right.

WRONG MOVE!

It did not like it one bit, being taken away from its brother and sister, and being uprooted and moved. It went all brown, the leaves dried up and the flowers wilted and looked like it would not make it.

BUT i decided to try my best and care for it; i talked to it, encouraged it, loving gave it water and fertilisers. And LOOK!

lessonfrommygarden20160708bIt has come back; it has produced a lovely yellow flower and new leaves. i decided to leave its brown and dead bits because firstly, i don’t want to traumatise it further and secondly, it is a good reminder of what this little pumpkin plant went through to get to where it is today with its pretty flower and fresh new leaves.

This whole experience made me think about the orphans i advocate for – for DEAN, whom we pray for daily and wait expectantly for a family to come for him, for DENNY, who is my Orphan of the Month and we also wait expectantly for a family for him.

These children have gone through so much more than my little pumpkin plant. Yet time and again, i hear and see evidence given by adoptive families that LOVE can make a DIFFERENCE! They tell amazing stories of how their adopted children grow and change and blossom!

While adoption is not on the cards for my family at the moment, we love these children from afar and advocate for them; hoping and praying for a loving family to be brave and step up for them because we know they are beautiful children and they will bloom under caring parents, just like my pumpkin plant did.

So please join me in praying for these children, especially for DEAN and DENNY. Join me in sharing their stories across social media so that more can help, and who knows among those you know maybe the family for these boys.

You can click on their names to go to their profile pages on Reece’s Rainbow.

Thank you.

syc