Happy New Year!! It’s 2017!
Now i had debated with myself a few times whether or not i should blog about this, since it is sort of in the past, it happened in the year gone by… but i decided that such an incident needed to be recorded in some way.
So i am going to be looking back at nine days before the Christmas of 2016. It was Friday, 16th December 2016.
i had almost finished grocery shopping and was going to meet my friend for our usual weekly writing session when my mobile rang. It was not a number i immediately recognised. i picked up and heard the familiar voice of my boy’s teacher.
She asked where i was and if i could sit down. Then she told me not to panic, that Tobias had fallen in gym class and she had to call the ambulance, which was on its way. She didn’t think it was serious but said i should meet them at the hospital.
i finished up the shopping, left a message for my friend and headed to the hospital. i arrived at the ER and asked about Tobias but he had not been brought in yet. The lady even kindly checked with the private pediatric practice within the hospital. i was told to wait.
While waiting, i overheard a triage nurse say Tobias’ name. i stood outside her door till she was off the phone with the ambulance. She had already seen me at her door, even before she got off the phone. She immediately identified me as Tobias’ mother and directed me to the private pediatric practice because that is where she directed the EMTs to bring Tobias.
i texted my friends to be praying while i waited. It was 9.30am.
When Tobias arrived, at about 10am, he seemed rather oozy, which the EMT said was due to the pain meds. His teacher was with him and she was very kind and supportive. His forearms were in splints. The pediatrician came in and had a looked. When he lifted Tobias’ right arm up, i knew it was broken.
i found out, from the EMT’s description, how it happened. Tobias was in gym class, on the rings, he dismounted, fell backward and put his arms out behind him to break his fall. The ENT said it was a very classic fall and break.
We were sent for an x-ray. One of the nurses from the practice accompanied us throughout. Then i was shown the x-ray by the pediatrician, which showed that both Tobias’ arms were broken. He told us that he had already spoken to the head of orthopedics at the hospital, who was experienced in treating such injuries in children, so we were sent back to the ER to await admission paperwork and treatment.
While we waited in a treatment room in the ER, we had a variety of doctors and nurses come by. The first was the second in charge of ortho, who explained what was going to happen. Then a nurse came in to put in a drip line. Another brought more pain meds. Then the anesthesiologist. Then another member of the ortho team. Finally, at about 1pm, we were transferred to the ward to await surgery which was scheduled at 5pm.
My dear friend came and sat with Tobias in the ward so i could go home with the groceries and get some overnight stuff together. Thank you my dear… again.
We ordered our meals (my dinner and our breakfast and lunch) from the hospital menu. More pain meds were given. We got to chat with Tobias’ roommate, an older gentlemen, who seemed to have been in hospital for a while. Tobias’ teacher rang to find out what was happening and was devasted that both his arms had broken. She was surprised at how calm i sounded. i was strangely calm and i attribute that to the many prayers prayed on our behalf by dear friends. Thank you.
The surgery was delayed by an hour. i was allowed to walk him down to surgery. Then i went to pick Walter up from the train station. He was coming back from a business trip.
i picked up a few more things at home and he dropped me off again at the hospital before heading to his company’s Christmas event. There was no point in both of us staying at the hospital, waiting.
The nurses were very nice to keep aside my dinner for me and they served it to me at the little table where visitors usually sat and had a chat/tea with the patients.
A little after 8pm, the surgeon rang the ward and told me all had gone well and that Tobias would be wheeled to recovery soon. An hour after that, the recovery nurse called and said i could come down and sit with him.
At about 10pm, we were back in the ward. Walter then came by and visited quickly (he was only allowed in for a short time) before heading home. i spent the night sleeping in an armchair with a footrest, next to Tobias’ bed. The nurses were very apologetic that there was no bed available for me and found the most comfortable chair they could for me, one which could lean back a bit, along with pillows and two blankets.
The next morning, Tobias woke up in good spirits and realised that he would not be able to play games for a while and he was upset that he might not be able to open his Christmas presents. i assured him it would be fine. We washed up and then breakfast was served.
A doctor came in to check his bandages. Then the surgeon came in, checked and said we could go home this afternoon. The second in charge then came in with discharge papers and meds prescription. Then it was lunch.
While we were waiting for the nurse to come and remove the drip line, Tobias’ teacher came to visit and even brought a gift, audio books. It was very thoughtful of her. She said in all her 20 over years of teaching, this was the first time she had to call for an ambulance.
After Tobias’ drip was removed, we paid for my meals and went home.
So it has been 3 weeks now. We have had his initial post-op bandages changed to a much slimmer one, which has helped with the mobility of his hands. In 2 weeks, we go to the surgeon to see if the bones have healed nicely. If so, then the wires will be removed and he will out of the casts.
With casts on both arms and being allowed to only lift the weight of a glass of water, Tobias needed help in almost everything. We also saw serious bruising on his left arm which needed daily massages for a number of days to get rid of the blood pooling from the surgery site.
All along this journey, people have been kind and helpful and patient. i thank you all for your love, care and concern. Tobias’ friends and teachers have also been wonderful; being patient and helpful, getting their mums to text to ask how he was, visiting on their way to and from school.It has been a trying few weeks in which we had to have lots of patience. But the light at the end of the tunnel can be seen and we pray for full recovery.
It has been a trying few weeks in which we had to have lots of patience. But the light at the end of the tunnel can be seen and we pray for full recovery.
Do pray along with us. Thank you.
This past weekend was my birthday. i don’t like telling people about my birthday; not because i don’t want people to know or to send their well wishes, i am fine with that, but i feel embarrassed by the attention, sometimes, especially if it is a group setting.
i spent a good deal of the weekend thinking about ANDERSEN, my special needs orphan, for whom i am fundraising for and building awareness for this Christmas season.
You see my fundraising efforts for him has not been going well. It is just past the halfway mark in terms of amount of time i have to raise that US$1000 for him, and we are nowhere close to the target!
i thought about ANDERSEN and whether people make a fuss on his birthday; does he get people stopping him as he walks down the corridors of his orphanage wishing him well? Are the caregivers there able to give him a little celebration at all? Does he get sad every time it is his birthday because it may remind him that he doesn’t have a family to celebrate with?
Then i thought about Christmas and wondered if ANDERSEN knew about Christmas. And if he did, what did he know about Christmas? Does he know only the commercial type of Christmas where it is all about shopping and getting gifts? OR does he know that Christmas is because of CHRIST? Does he know about the precious gift which God gave us at Christmas?
All these thoughts made me sad but it has also made me determined to get more people talking about ANDERSEN and his need for a forever family. It has also made me decide to ask for direct donations for ANDERSEN‘s adoption grant.
i have not asked for direct donations to any orphan’s grant for the last couple of years because people had not responded very well. But i really feel i should this year; partly because i am not sure what else i can do, partly because i know i have friends who would respond positively and give whatever they can.
So i am making an appeal here and now: PLEASE consider this Christmas season, as we think about gift giving and gift receiving, consider GIVING to ANDERSEN‘s adoption grant and helping to grow his adoption grant. Think of it as giving me a really lovely birthday gift. If you give more than US$35, you would receive a lovely Christmas ornament with ANDERSEN‘s picture on it. Click here to give.
This grant would be used to help his forever family make their way to him; adoption is a long, expensive process, and money should not be the thing which hinders a family from giving a child a loving home.
You can find out more about ANDERSEN by clicking on his name or picture to go to his profile page on Reece’s Rainbow.
Thank you very much.