Do you have nomophobia?

That’s right – another phobia to worry about… This one is so relevant to how our lives have become so instant, always connected.

Nomophobia
Nomophobia (Photo credit: Foomandoonian)

Mobile Phones!! Nomophobia has to do with that little digital device which keeps you contactable at all times… it is the fear of losing or being without your mobile phone… simply put, it is a fear which stems from the need to be constantly reachable.

Frankly that prospect isn’t all that appealing to me. i mean, i completely agree with how convenient it is to have a mobile phone and how it has made some areas of our lives much easier; but there are times when i simply don’t want to be contactable. Haven’t you felt that way? Or maybe i’m just weird that way?

When we first got to Switzerland (almost a decade ago – can you believe it? i can’t.), i went from a high-stress, always must-be-reachable job to being a home maker and having no mobile phone at all, for 2 years. And i must say, they were quite carefree years… i only got re-connected to the mobile world when my little guy was about 6 months old and the thought of being stranded somewhere with him, without being able to contact my husband was a little scary.

Another thing i have noticed is that with the rise of the use of mobile phones, people seem to value punctuality less, because they can easily pick up their mobile phone and call a friend to say they will be late or cancel at the last minute. Before mobile phones, when one makes an appointment, one makes more of an effort to keep those appointments and be on time for them. The motivation factor is that there was no way of contacting the friend once you have left the home/office. So you just had to get there.

The waiting friend also tended to be more patient waiting for you, as if you were caught in traffic there was no way of letting him/her know. Now almost 90% or more carry mobile phones, so friends expect to be updated all the time and if they are not, some do get offended.

But the greatest loss for me with this mobile age, is the lost art of simply being with people and enjoying their company, and interacting with the people and environment around you. i observe that a lot of people simply carry on on their phones, either texting or playing on apps or even watching movies, when they are with their group of friends, while they are on public transport, or worse still while driving or walking. What’s the point in meeting up if you don’t wanna interact with “real” people? i know not all do that but i have seen quite a number who are so very devoted to their devices.

Now i’m not saying mobile is all bad – as i said before, there is good which comes from having a mobile phone. i just wish that more people would strike a balance between their digital lives and their real lives. And maybe take a break from the digital world every now and again – as suggested at the end of this article.

Here is the article which started my mind along this train of thought. Do you have nomophobia? – Your guide to digital living. Have a read and let me know what you think.

Also if you do suffer from nomophobia, here’s a website which talks about it and i believe offer some form of support for it.

So will you fight this phobia and schedule some “phone/wire-free” time??

syc

Little Free Library…

Little Free Library
Little Free Library (Photo credit: litlnemo)

i’m a big time reader… actually my love for books knows almost no bounds… i LOVE books!! i love the feel of a ‘real’ book; i love the way a new, actually even an old book smells. i love the feel of the pages under my fingers, running my finger along the lines as i read.

So when i came upon this website, i was like: “Oh wow! Awesome idea!!”. And i’m sharing it with you here.

It’s the Little Free Library project. A very worthy project. You can either build your own Little Free Library or order one from the website. Stick it on your property, near the sidewalk or hang it somewhere in a school, even an office. Fill it with books, which will then be shared with whoever desires to read them! There are no library cards or late fees or lines. Just pick a book you like and read it. Then return it and contribute with a book of your own.

The whole idea is to promote the joys of reading and i support this 100%.

Silverlake's Little Free Library
Silverlake’s Little Free Library (Photo credit: Michael R Perry)

Hop over to the website and have a look for yourself. Most of the libraries are in the US at the moment. There are 2 in Germany, 2 in Italy, 1 in London, 1 in India and 2 in Africa. So the movement is slowly catching on. Click on the “Find a Little Free Library on the World Map” button at the bottom right of the homepage to see exact locations.

i think the idea of getting a whole community involved on it is wonderful. The website also has advice on what to do when the Library is damaged or books get stolen. See their FAQs.

i wish there was one near me, although that would mean most books in German, which will take me forever to read and i would be contributing back English books. Hehhehee 😉

What do you think of this idea? Would you build one where you live? Or maybe there is already one there? Let me know.

syc

Stop Apologizing for Your Art…

create
create (Photo credit: suttonhoo)

i read the article below and i thought, “Wow! We, or at least i, don’t just do this about my work (be it writing or art or photography) but i also do this in a lot of aspects of my life.”

There are times and in certain things, such as my writing, i don’t really think people want to read or want to hear what i have to say. i don’t believe in myself enough in certain areas of my life. After reading Goins, i’m determined to, at the very least, start believing in my writing. Have a read and let me know what you think.

Stop Apologizing for Your Art | Goins, Writer.

Oh there is one statement he made at the end,

But whatever you do, don’t apologize. We don’t have time for that.

i don’t quite agree completely with it.

If our art had offended people by making fun of their culture or background for no other purpose than to make them the butt of jokes, then i feel that an apology is owned, even if you did it unknowingly. If, however, the piece was making a social/political point, then i can see the use of such jokes… but we really need to be careful there…

i say the above because i really dislike distasteful jokes about a certain culture or race of people, just because they are who they are.

But having confidence in your craft (completely different from making meaningless jokes) is an important thing and i want to thank J. Gions for pointing that out to me.

i hope you would be inspired too.

syc