Everybody´s Birthday…

This post has been a week in the making, i had wanted to write this a week ago but a lack of time and a feeling that today might be the better day to post has seen this turning over in my head for 7 more days.

Why today? What is “Everyone´s Birthday”?

Well, as you know, today in the 14th of February, traditionally celebrated in most places as St. Valentine´Day. So a Happy Valentine´Day to you. (btw, here´s a read of the interesting history behind St. Valentine.)

Today, for 2016, is also the 7th day of the Lunar New Year (Chinese New Year), which is also known as “Everyone´s Birthday”. Another big day in what is a traditionally a 14-day celebration, which began a week again with the big family reunion dinner, where family gather, usually in the grandmother´s home, and everyone who has been away from home (working or studying) makes the journey home and into the warm embrace of family. Chinese New Year is a time when families gather together and celebrate the coming new year, giving blessings and red packets, exchanging hopes and good wishes for the year ahead.

12.5 year old Dean needs a family to help him make the most of life.
12.5 year old Dean needs a family to help him make the most of life.

All these has made me think of DEAN, the special needs orphan whom my boy and i pray for. We pray almost daily for a forever family to step up for him as soon as possible. This festive season makes me wonder how he is spending the Chinese New Year. Did he get to celebrate where he is? Did he get new clothes, like other children who have loving parents? Is he given the traditional red packet with a little money? Or was it just another day at the institute or orphanage he is at?

i do hope and pray he did get to celebrate the Chinese New Year.

BUT my big hope and PRAYER is that DEAN will get to celebrate the next Lunar New Year with his forever family.

Caroline, the other orphan we pray, has a family coming for her. Praise the Lord! So i know the Lord does hear us and will answer us.

i ask you on this Valentine´s Day, on Everybody´s Birthday 2016, would you show a little love and please join me in praying for a family for DEAN?

He has just a little over a year before he ages out of the adoption system in his home country and it would be a sad time for him come September 2017 if his forever family does not come for him asap.

Listen to what one adoptive parent says on her Facebook about some older orphans she has met in DEAN´s home country…

“Tears from Jenny, who broke down on her 14th birthday when she realized that she had aged out of the adoption system without being chosen. The final realization that she would never know what it meant to have a mom or dad of her own caused her to fall into a deep depression. Tears from Lily, a 17-year-old girl whom I had given my jacket after she admired it. When she refused to accept it initially, I put my hand on her shoulder and said, “But of course you have to take it because you are like family to me.” And it was at that one word, “family,” that this normally stoic young lady broke down and sobbed uncontrollably, as it is the one thing that she longed for.

By far, however, the most emotional moment of my time in China came one night when I was able to meet with a group of older orphaned teens I had watched grow up over a five year period. Every time I would visit their orphanage, I would enjoy getting to know them more. They all seemed so close, such good friends, and they always had smiles for me when I arrived. That night, however, was a night when the kids finally let their guard down. It was a night of real conversation and sharing what it means to grow up as an orphan. Toward the end of the evening we were all in tears. Afterwards, one of the older boys stayed to talk with me privately. I am hesitant to even write of it now as it was such a deeply personal and emotionally raw conversation.I will share, however, that he told me that growing up without a mother or father “hurts more than death.” “

i hope and pray hard that DEAN WILL KNOW the love of a mother and a father.

i ask you to pray along with me. And to also pray for other orphans you know who are in need of a family. Reece´s Rainbow has a list of aging out orphans you can pray over and help give a voice to. Please see here. Please do pick one of them to pray for, along with praying for DEAN.

If you do pray for DEAN, even if it is just for a day, please comment below and let me know. It would be most encouraging to me and my boy to know that others are joining us in prayer for DEAN.

If you do pray for DEAN and another orphan, please also comment below with the name of the other child, so that we may stand with you in prayer as well.

Just one more thing before i sign off, the month of February is when Reece´s Rainbow has their Love Notes campaign, where you can buy love notes and give them as a gift to someone who can then pick an orphan to receive the love notes amount into their adoption grant. Find out more here. May i be so bold as to ask you and your loved one to consider giving Love Notes to grow DEAN´s adoption grant?

You can click on DEAN´s picture or name to go to his profile page on Reece´s Rainbow.

Thank you very much!



New Kids on Just Needing A Family’s Love…

You heard the good news; Jason has a family coming for him and of course last year we had the sad news that Jasper aged out. While i will always be praying for these boys (just like i pray for all the orphans we had previously advocated for), we need to move forward and help more precious children. So we have 2 new orphans we are advocating for and praying for. We, meaning my boy and i and you too!

Meet DEAN!

12 year old Dean needs a family to help him make the most of life.
12-year-old Dean needs a family to help him make the most of life.

Dean was brought to the institute when he was 5. He is now 12 years old. His special need is listed as mental delays which makes his exact condition unclear and i believe this may be what is stopping families from jumping in and committing to giving him a home. He has learnt much since being at the institute. He has good self-care skills and can even help with simple chores. Dean is described as an introverted child who gets along well with the other children at his institute and at school.

Whatever his specific need might be, it is clear that with a loving family around him and the right tools available to him, he will go far. He needs people who believe in him, he needs to find his people!

And you can help that caring family find him; you can share Dean’s story and need for a family. You can pray for him and for a family to step forward for him asap.

You can also help grow his adoption grant. Because of his “mental delays”, he is likely to be overlooked for domestic adoption within his country. So an expensive international adoption would be his best chance for a family to call his own. This grant which Reece’s Rainbow has opened for him will help the family who comes for him to reach him faster and make finances less of an obstacle to Dean getting a family.


Caroline is 12 and wants a family to call her own.
Caroline is 12 and wants a family to call her own.

Caroline also come into institutional care when she was about 5 years old. She is now 12 years old. She has Cerebral Palsy which affected her lower legs. After a surgery in 2013, she has been able to walk with only a slight limp. In school, she is just a little bit behind her peers because she had no early education before coming into care. Caroline is described as very easy-going with a positive attitude about everything she does.

Doesn’t she sound lovely? All she is lacking to make the most of life is a loving family who can help her to get all the possible care she needs and to show her that family means standing with each other.

You can help Caroline find her forever family! Share her story and her need for a caring family. You can pray for her and her family to step up for her asap.

You can also help grow her adoption grant. Like most special needs orphans in her country, she is considered an outcast and will unlikely be chosen for domestic adoption. An expensive international adoption might be the way to a forever family for her. Reece’s Rainbow’s adoption grant will enable a family to face a lesser financial hurdle when considering Caroline’s adoption.

There you are – 2 lovely children in need of wonderful families to help them navigate life better and to shine like the little stars they are.

Please join us in advocating for DEAN and CAROLINE, as well as praying for their daily needs and for a family for each of them.

You can click on their names or pictures to find out more. You can like my FB page, Just Needing A Family’s Love, to follow along and take part in fundraisers and other events for these precious kiddos.

Thank you.