Everybody´s Birthday…

This post has been a week in the making, i had wanted to write this a week ago but a lack of time and a feeling that today might be the better day to post has seen this turning over in my head for 7 more days.

Why today? What is “Everyone´s Birthday”?

Well, as you know, today in the 14th of February, traditionally celebrated in most places as St. Valentine´Day. So a Happy Valentine´Day to you. (btw, here´s a read of the interesting history behind St. Valentine.)

Today, for 2016, is also the 7th day of the Lunar New Year (Chinese New Year), which is also known as “Everyone´s Birthday”. Another big day in what is a traditionally a 14-day celebration, which began a week again with the big family reunion dinner, where family gather, usually in the grandmother´s home, and everyone who has been away from home (working or studying) makes the journey home and into the warm embrace of family. Chinese New Year is a time when families gather together and celebrate the coming new year, giving blessings and red packets, exchanging hopes and good wishes for the year ahead.

12.5 year old Dean needs a family to help him make the most of life.
12.5 year old Dean needs a family to help him make the most of life.

All these has made me think of DEAN, the special needs orphan whom my boy and i pray for. We pray almost daily for a forever family to step up for him as soon as possible. This festive season makes me wonder how he is spending the Chinese New Year. Did he get to celebrate where he is? Did he get new clothes, like other children who have loving parents? Is he given the traditional red packet with a little money? Or was it just another day at the institute or orphanage he is at?

i do hope and pray he did get to celebrate the Chinese New Year.

BUT my big hope and PRAYER is that DEAN will get to celebrate the next Lunar New Year with his forever family.

Caroline, the other orphan we pray, has a family coming for her. Praise the Lord! So i know the Lord does hear us and will answer us.

i ask you on this Valentine´s Day, on Everybody´s Birthday 2016, would you show a little love and please join me in praying for a family for DEAN?

He has just a little over a year before he ages out of the adoption system in his home country and it would be a sad time for him come September 2017 if his forever family does not come for him asap.

Listen to what one adoptive parent says on her Facebook about some older orphans she has met in DEAN´s home country…

“Tears from Jenny, who broke down on her 14th birthday when she realized that she had aged out of the adoption system without being chosen. The final realization that she would never know what it meant to have a mom or dad of her own caused her to fall into a deep depression. Tears from Lily, a 17-year-old girl whom I had given my jacket after she admired it. When she refused to accept it initially, I put my hand on her shoulder and said, “But of course you have to take it because you are like family to me.” And it was at that one word, “family,” that this normally stoic young lady broke down and sobbed uncontrollably, as it is the one thing that she longed for.

By far, however, the most emotional moment of my time in China came one night when I was able to meet with a group of older orphaned teens I had watched grow up over a five year period. Every time I would visit their orphanage, I would enjoy getting to know them more. They all seemed so close, such good friends, and they always had smiles for me when I arrived. That night, however, was a night when the kids finally let their guard down. It was a night of real conversation and sharing what it means to grow up as an orphan. Toward the end of the evening we were all in tears. Afterwards, one of the older boys stayed to talk with me privately. I am hesitant to even write of it now as it was such a deeply personal and emotionally raw conversation.I will share, however, that he told me that growing up without a mother or father “hurts more than death.” “

i hope and pray hard that DEAN WILL KNOW the love of a mother and a father.

i ask you to pray along with me. And to also pray for other orphans you know who are in need of a family. Reece´s Rainbow has a list of aging out orphans you can pray over and help give a voice to. Please see here. Please do pick one of them to pray for, along with praying for DEAN.

If you do pray for DEAN, even if it is just for a day, please comment below and let me know. It would be most encouraging to me and my boy to know that others are joining us in prayer for DEAN.

If you do pray for DEAN and another orphan, please also comment below with the name of the other child, so that we may stand with you in prayer as well.

Just one more thing before i sign off, the month of February is when Reece´s Rainbow has their Love Notes campaign, where you can buy love notes and give them as a gift to someone who can then pick an orphan to receive the love notes amount into their adoption grant. Find out more here. May i be so bold as to ask you and your loved one to consider giving Love Notes to grow DEAN´s adoption grant?

You can click on DEAN´s picture or name to go to his profile page on Reece´s Rainbow.

Thank you very much!

syc

 

JASPER’s Last Few Days Before…

Keep praying for JASPER - he ages out on 1st Jan 2015.
Keep praying for JASPER – he ages out on 1st Jan 2015.

The precious boy we have been shouting out for this year has run out of time… he has JUST 4 DAYS till he becomes unadoptable!

BUT it is not a lost battle – JASPER has been prayed for by so many and i know the Lord has heard and the Lord has a plan for him and whatever that plan might be, we may never know about it, it will be good because the Lord will go with JASPER always!

i am sad and very disappointed. However, i must keep the faith that what we have done is not in vain. That the funds we raised for JASPER, even though it will not be used for JASPER, it will benefit another precious child.

The Lord hears our prayers so please continue to PRAY for JASPER. Pray for his future, pray for the Lord to guide his steps and provide loving people to come into his life and care for him. Pray that the Lord would provide a family for JASPER, even if it is not the conventional family we would imagine for him.

i know first hand that a family doesn’t have to be a mummy, a daddy and children. i have lived away from home and know that family is whoever loves you and will put your interests ahead of their own. Labels don’t matter that much. It is the love.

And this is the prayer i pray for JASPER, that he will know love, the love of people in his life, the love of the Lord and that he will learn to love others in return. Because love wins.

syc

Care For Orphans…

i read a blog-post on Rage Against the Minivan entitled ” You Don’t Need to Adopt to Care For Orphans.” and she is absolutely right! You don’t have to adopt to show that you care and want to help. The post list wonderful ways you can help, please go over, have a read and consider making some of those suggestions a part of your life.

Today i want to take just one of those suggestions and expand on it a little more:

Consider adopting a teen who is aging out – There is something profoundly heartbreaking in reading the photo-listings of children who have turned 18 and who, despite being old enough to live independently, place themselves on national photo-listings because they desperately want a family. Many of these teenagers have college plans or career aspirations and are really looking for the moral support of a family as they enter adulthood. Everyone deserves to have a consistent place to land for the holidays, rituals, and celebrations in life. Maybe you have that to give.

She is talking from the viewpoint of domestic adoptions within the US, but i would like to ask you to consider the teen orphans who are in countries where their abilities and worth are in doubt simply because they have some form of special needs.

These teens have spent most of their lives in an orphanage or institution. It is uncertain if they are given an education but regardless, they will never get the opportunities they deserve, they will never be fully accepted into the society they are born into because of their special needs such as Down Syndrome, limb disability, mental delays etc.

They deserve to know that they are valued, just as they are. They need the support of a loving family to help them through the difficulties of their special needs. They want a caring mummy and daddy to call their own. They should be given the opportunities to show off what they are truly capable of.

Please allow me to introduce:

Shaina

She has ONLY A FEW WEEKS (before end of June 2013) before she ages out of the system! We need a miracle here for her to have a family of her own. She has Down Syndrome and physical and mental delays. But she is said to be expressive with body language and is  kind and sincere.

Are you her forever family? If yes, please contact Reece’s Rainbow immediately for details.

Daniel

He is an active, friendly and affectionate child. He likes to play with and greet people. He enjoys cleaning and keeping a room tidy and is sensitive to the needs of others. He has Down Syndrome. He would do wonderfully in a loving family. He has till July 2013 (less than 2 months) to find a family.

Are you that loving family? If yes , please contact Reece’s Rainbow at once for details.

Matthew-John

He has an amazing smile, don’t you think? He is extroverted in character, and is an active and lovely child. His temper is very obstinate. He gets along well with children in his institute and likes playing games with other children, swinging and playing football. He is well-loved by those who know him. He suffers from an absence of left frontal skull bone and dyskinesia of right limbs. He has until September 2013 (less than 4 months) to have a family of his own. Matthew has a VERY large grant available through Lifesong, as well!

Could you be the family to love him just as he is? If yes, please contact Reece’s Rainbow asap for details.

Erin

She has been at the institute since her infancy. She has been diagnosed with aural atresia of both ears, auricle deformity, and delays in intelligence and growth development. But she is still fairly independent and is also able to help with chores such as sweeping the floor. Her language development is limited, but she can say goodbye to others and can understand gestures. She is a sweet girl who likes to be cuddled and enjoys playing with her good friends. She ages out in November 2013 (less than 6 months).

Could you be her family? If yes, please contact Reece’s Rainbow without delay for details.

Eddy

She has delayed development and amyotrophy of the left lower limb. Her mental, motor and language and emotional abilities are delayed. She can walk alone, her gait is abnormal. She likes to play games, obeys the rules, and can get along well with others. She needs a family who understands that she is very delayed in many aspects of her life, including behavior. She needs a family to come for her by January 2014 (less than 8 months).

Are you that understanding family? If yes, please contact Reece’s Rainbow promptly for details.

These young teens live in a country where adoptions are not commonplace and adoption of a special needs child is rare and adoption of an older special needs child is almost unheard of! So an international adoption is likely the best way for them to have a forever family.

Here is where you can help even if you are not able to adopt:

  • You can share their stories far and wide so that their forever families may be found. Time is of the essence here! Social media sharing is one of the best ways to do this.
  • You can pray for them. Pray very hard that their forever family be courageous and step forward for them today. Pray that their daily and medical needs be met.
  • You can give towards their adoption grants so that their forever family’s very expensive international journey to them would have fewer hurdles. Click on their pictures or names to go to their individual profile page to donate.

Thank you.

syc

PS: there are a few other children in Eastern Europe who are also aging out. Please view details here.