Team Studer: 25 Rules for Mothers of Sons

What a lovely list…

Team Studer: 25 Rules for Mothers of Sons.

i heart

1. Teach him the words for how he feels.

i find this a rather difficult thing to do… mainly cos i rarely identify out loud my own emotions but i do think this is soooo very very important for boys, especially! So i will continue to try…

2. Be a cheerleader for his life

Every kid needs encouragement. Every kid needs someone who will be there always, shouting, “Go! You can do it! Go!” Someone who will believe in him no matter what. And i can do that, i love to do that!

4. Read to him and read with him.

My favourite time with my little guy is when we crash onto my bed and he lays there while i read a big book with loads of words (no pictures) in it. He likes it too… not always, but when i insists, he ends up enjoying it… We also read before bedtime, read on the trains, planes etc…

10. Give him something to believe in

Faith is so very important. Without faith, there is no hope. Without hope, what is life? My faith in the Lord Jesus Christ is what keeps me going, day in, day out. And that is one thing i hope to pass this faith onto him, which i firmly believe will help him through his life, will give him direction and hope and purpose.

15. Let him lose

Oooh, this is such a bone with my little guy – he HATES to lose. That’s something his teacher pointed out in a recent teacher-parent meeting. He is getting better. Now he doesn’t throw the cards when he loses. He simply growls at you and says in a loud i-mean-business voice, “We’ll play till i win!” i pray hard he learns that winning isn’t everything… it’s the fun we had playing with each other…

20. Let his dad teach him how to do things

His daddy travels a fair bit for work so as much as i can, i get him to do stuff with daddy. i’ll even buy model kits for them to build so that they have something all ready for them to work on.

21. Give him something to release his energy

My little guy has soooo much energy – it’s so very amazing… but i believe i had a similar level of energy when i was his age too… This daily energy release is very important or both of us will be driven up the wall…

23. Take him to new places

i never leave him at home whenever i can. My parents took me and my brother everywhere – i mean EVERYWHERE… unless the place or invitation specifically states ‘no kids’. Babysitters were just never an option for my parents so we went with them or learnt early on how to stay at home by ourselves. So i have done the same for my boy – i take him everywhere and as soon as he showed enough independence, he stayed at home when we could not bring him with (this rarely happened).

24. Kiss him

i love kissing my little guy! He likes it too. But i have a sneaky suspicion that this “loving-kissing” stage isn’t going to last much longer – at least not in public 😉

25. Be home base

Letting him go is & will be harder for me than for my husband. But i pray that when the day comes to let him explore the world on his own, God give me courage and hold me back. i also pray that my little guy will know that i’m always here for him – ALWAYS. Just as God is always here for us.

On boat from Lausanne to Vevey, Oct 2011

Which are your favourites? Do you have anything else to add?


3 Replies to “Team Studer: 25 Rules for Mothers of Sons”

  1. Loved this! I liked 10 and 20 a lot…but they were all so good. I also like #1 teaching them how to verbalize. Sometimes my boy verbalizes too much–but not about the things I want him to. He usually is rehearsing a most loved commercial or play by play of a Star Wars episode he watched. Emotions…not so much. Will have to work on that with him.


    1. Yes i know exactly what u r talking about… my little guy is a little chatterbox & usually goes on & on about his toy or game he is currently obsessed about… even if u give him signs that u have heard enough, he’ll still keep going… hahhahaa… we r also working on the verbalising emotions… i may try & get a Go Fish game about that… we have the Thumb Ball for now… but it’s really more fun with 3 people… so we wait till we have 3 at home who can play at the same time 😉 have a good week…


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