i came across this blog called, FindingMyWorth – Realizing A Woman’s Worth. It is a blog which is definitely worth the time spent reading it.
At the moment, this is my favourite post (see title of post, link to the full blog post below).
i read it and i went “OMG, that is me!” You see, i have always been very content to just go with the flow of life. One of the things i used to always say (and likely still say it a fair bit) is “If life throws you lemons, make lemonade.” Now there is completely nothing wrong with the saying. It is a great saying which encourages one to make the best of life and we do need to do that so that we can move forwards instead of wallowing in self-pity. But after reading this piece, i feel that maybe sometimes, with regards to certain things, i have just been letting things slide; i have not been going out there, not doing something about making my dreams come true.
When she spoke about the reasons why we may not have successes in our lives is:
i looked at myself and realised – YES, that is soooo very true. i have been afraid of success, afraid of changing the status quo because truth be told, my life is good. And i Thank God each day how wonderful, how blessed my life has been. But if… if i move forward and go for gold, what would happen? Would my family and friends still see me as the same person? Would the success make me change and become someone i would not recognise or even dislike? i admit it – i have also placed a great emphasis on what people think of me – i am a people-pleaser (now that is yet another post). And of course i fear what everyone normally does, failure – what would they think of me if i failed? Would they think “oh she’s so silly to have gone for it in the first place.”?
Why do i think that way? Because i never thought very much of myself – my self-esteem was low. That is the second point she makes. Now i have to say this – my parents are fantastic parents, nothing short of absolutely marvelous, and yet somehow i got it into my head that i am not good enough. Oh, it was subtle the way this “not good enough” crept into my mind without me even knowing, let alone realising, what it was. So that’s how i ended up getting “approval” from others around me and i have not really lived my own life.
i believe that if God had not been a part of my life, i would have been so very lost, lost trying to find my worth in this rather harsh world we live in. He gave me a direction in my life and He told me i was worth so much that He sent His Only to die for me. Thank You Jesus.
PS: Even though the post speaks directly to women, i firmly believe that both men and women need to hear this – People you are all precious and worthy of love and success. So go get it!