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A Fall, Two Breaks, One Surgery…

Happy New Year!! It’s 2017!

Now i had debated with myself a few times whether or not i should blog about this, since it is sort of in the past, it happened in the year gone by… but i decided that such an incident needed to be recorded in some way.

So i am going to be looking back at nine days before the Christmas of 2016. It was Friday, 16th December 2016.

i had almost finished grocery shopping and was going to meet my friend for our usual weekly writing session when my mobile rang. It was not a number i immediately recognised. i picked up and heard the familiar voice of my boy’s teacher.

She asked where i was and if i could sit down. Then she told me not to panic, that Tobias had fallen in gym class and she had to call the ambulance, which was on its way. She didn’t think it was serious but said i should meet them at the hospital.

i finished up the shopping, left a message for my friend and headed to the hospital. i arrived at the ER and asked about Tobias but he had not been brought in yet. The lady even kindly checked with the private pediatric practice within the hospital. i was told to wait.

While waiting, i overheard a triage nurse say Tobias’ name. i stood outside her door till she was off the phone with the ambulance. She had already seen me at her door, even before she got off the phone. She immediately identified me as Tobias’ mother and directed me to the private pediatric practice because that is where she directed the EMTs to bring Tobias.

i texted my friends to be praying while i waited. It was 9.30am.

When Tobias arrived, at about 10am, he seemed rather oozy, which the EMT said was due to the pain meds. His teacher was with him and she was very kind and supportive. His forearms were in splints. The pediatrician came in and had a looked. When he lifted Tobias’ right arm up, i knew it was broken.

i found out, from the EMT’s description, how it happened. Tobias was in gym class, on the rings, he dismounted, fell backward and put his arms out behind him to break his fall. The ENT said it was a very classic fall and break.

We were sent for an x-ray. One of the nurses from the practice accompanied us throughout. Then i was shown the x-ray by the pediatrician, which showed that both Tobias’ arms were broken. He told us that he had already spoken to the head of orthopedics at the hospital, who was experienced in treating such injuries in children, so we were sent back to the ER to await admission paperwork and treatment.

While we waited in a treatment room in the ER, we had a variety of doctors and nurses come by. The first was the second in charge of ortho, who explained what was going to happen. Then a nurse came in to put in a drip line. Another brought more pain meds. Then the anesthesiologist.  Then another member of the ortho team. Finally, at about 1pm, we were transferred to the ward to await surgery which was scheduled at 5pm.

 

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Waiting for surgery…

 

My dear friend came and sat with Tobias in the ward so i could go home with the groceries and get some overnight stuff together. Thank you my dear… again.

We ordered our meals (my dinner and our breakfast and lunch) from the hospital menu. More pain meds were given. We got to chat with Tobias’ roommate, an older gentlemen, who seemed to have been in hospital for a while. Tobias’ teacher rang to find out what was happening and was devasted that both his arms had broken. She was surprised at how calm i sounded. i was strangely calm and i attribute that to the many prayers prayed on our behalf by dear friends. Thank you.

The surgery was delayed by an hour. i was allowed to walk him down to surgery. Then i went to pick Walter up from the train station. He was coming back from a business trip.

i picked up a few more things at home and he dropped me off again at the hospital before heading to his company’s Christmas event. There was no point in both of us staying at the hospital, waiting.

The nurses were very nice to keep aside my dinner for me and they served it to me at the little table where visitors usually sat and had a chat/tea with the patients.

A little after 8pm, the surgeon rang the ward and told me all had gone well and that Tobias would be wheeled to recovery soon. An hour after that, the recovery nurse called and said i could come down and sit with him.

 

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Post-surgery…

 

At about 10pm, we were back in the ward. Walter then came by and visited quickly (he was only allowed in for a short time) before heading home. i spent the night sleeping in an armchair with a footrest, next to Tobias’ bed. The nurses were very apologetic that there was no bed available for me and found the most comfortable chair they could for me, one which could lean back a bit, along with pillows and two blankets.

The next morning, Tobias woke up in good spirits and realised that he would not be able to play games for a while and he was upset that he might not be able to open his Christmas presents. i assured him it would be fine. We washed up and then breakfast was served.

A doctor came in to check his bandages. Then the surgeon came in, checked and said we could go home this afternoon. The second in charge then came in with discharge papers and meds prescription. Then it was lunch.

While we were waiting for the nurse to come and remove the drip line, Tobias’ teacher came to visit and even brought a gift, audio books. It was very thoughtful of her. She said in all her 20 over years of teaching, this was the first time she had to call for an ambulance.

After Tobias’ drip was removed, we paid for my meals and went home.

So it has been 3 weeks now. We have had his initial post-op bandages changed to a much slimmer one, which has helped with the mobility of his hands. In 2 weeks, we go to the surgeon to see if the bones have healed nicely. If so, then the wires will be removed and he will out of the casts.

 

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Casts with his friends’ signatures on them…

 

With casts on both arms and being allowed to only lift the weight of a glass of water, Tobias needed help in almost everything. We also saw serious bruising on his left arm which needed daily massages for a number of days to get rid of the blood pooling from the surgery site.

All along this journey, people have been kind and helpful and patient. i thank you all for your love, care and concern. Tobias’ friends and teachers have also been wonderful; being patient and helpful, getting their mums to text to ask how he was, visiting on their way to and from school.It has been a trying few weeks in which we had to have lots of patience. But the light at the end of the tunnel can be seen and we pray for full recovery.

It has been a trying few weeks in which we had to have lots of patience. But the light at the end of the tunnel can be seen and we pray for full recovery.

Do pray along with us. Thank you.

syc

OrphanS of the Month for September… Angel Crafts Shop…

This is my first post to highlight 2 orphans from the Older Child Grant (Other Angels) on Reece’s Rainbow. i was scrolling through the very long list and i keep thinking, “Oh this child. Oh, this one too. What about him? Or her? …” There are just SO MANY children who are in need of loving families… sometimes it seems overwhelming…

BUT i am reminded of the Starfish Story… where the final line says, “But it made a difference to this one…”

So one at a time, i will try my best to shout out for these precious children.

Now let’s meet DEAN!

deanMy boy and i have been praying for DEAN for a couple of years now. We pray each night for a family to come for him. And now he is so near to aging out… he has just another year before he is no longer adoptable under the laws of his home country.

DEAN has lived at the institute since he was 5 years old. He is now 13. He has mental delays but now has self-management skills, including toileting and gets along well with others. He can do simple chores as well. He is shy and i believe would really bloom with the care of a loving family. He has been waiting so very long already. Please see him for the wonderful boy he is and the amazing boy he can become.

Now meet ELIJAH!

elijah-3-200x300Like DEAN, ELIJAH was also left at the institute when he was 5 years old. He is 13 years old now. 8 years ago, when he was diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy, he was unable to walk. Through his own sheer determination, he can now walk slowly holding onto handrails. He is strong-willed, obedient and sensible. The staff at the institute adores him and hopes he get a wonderful family really soon. i know he would just thrive surrounded by a family he can call his own.

Both DEAN and ELIJAH age out in 2017. ELIJAH has only till June 2017 and DEAN till September 2017. They need families to step forward for them NOW!

Life would be very difficult for them in their home countries as adults with diabilities and there exist still a certain amount of social prejudice, which is not in their favour at all. Their hope of a full life is outside of their country. So an expensive international adoption would be the option.

Please HELP DEAN and ELIJAH by first of all, PRAYING for them. Praying for loving families to see them and step up for them. Second, SHARE their stories so more will know and more can help. Thirdly, you can help by SHOPPING at Angel Crafts Shop, where 50% of all sales goes to the group funds for them. 

DEAN and ELIJAH are eligible for a US$10,000 grant from Reece’s Rainbow, under their Older Child (Other Angels) Grant. Please click here for details of that grant.

Please click on DEAN‘s and ELIJAH‘s name and pictures to read more about them.

Thank you very much.

syc

Everybody´s Birthday…

This post has been a week in the making, i had wanted to write this a week ago but a lack of time and a feeling that today might be the better day to post has seen this turning over in my head for 7 more days.

Why today? What is “Everyone´s Birthday”?

Well, as you know, today in the 14th of February, traditionally celebrated in most places as St. Valentine´Day. So a Happy Valentine´Day to you. (btw, here´s a read of the interesting history behind St. Valentine.)

Today, for 2016, is also the 7th day of the Lunar New Year (Chinese New Year), which is also known as “Everyone´s Birthday”. Another big day in what is a traditionally a 14-day celebration, which began a week again with the big family reunion dinner, where family gather, usually in the grandmother´s home, and everyone who has been away from home (working or studying) makes the journey home and into the warm embrace of family. Chinese New Year is a time when families gather together and celebrate the coming new year, giving blessings and red packets, exchanging hopes and good wishes for the year ahead.

12.5 year old Dean needs a family to help him make the most of life.
12.5 year old Dean needs a family to help him make the most of life.

All these has made me think of DEAN, the special needs orphan whom my boy and i pray for. We pray almost daily for a forever family to step up for him as soon as possible. This festive season makes me wonder how he is spending the Chinese New Year. Did he get to celebrate where he is? Did he get new clothes, like other children who have loving parents? Is he given the traditional red packet with a little money? Or was it just another day at the institute or orphanage he is at?

i do hope and pray he did get to celebrate the Chinese New Year.

BUT my big hope and PRAYER is that DEAN will get to celebrate the next Lunar New Year with his forever family.

Caroline, the other orphan we pray, has a family coming for her. Praise the Lord! So i know the Lord does hear us and will answer us.

i ask you on this Valentine´s Day, on Everybody´s Birthday 2016, would you show a little love and please join me in praying for a family for DEAN?

He has just a little over a year before he ages out of the adoption system in his home country and it would be a sad time for him come September 2017 if his forever family does not come for him asap.

Listen to what one adoptive parent says on her Facebook about some older orphans she has met in DEAN´s home country…

“Tears from Jenny, who broke down on her 14th birthday when she realized that she had aged out of the adoption system without being chosen. The final realization that she would never know what it meant to have a mom or dad of her own caused her to fall into a deep depression. Tears from Lily, a 17-year-old girl whom I had given my jacket after she admired it. When she refused to accept it initially, I put my hand on her shoulder and said, “But of course you have to take it because you are like family to me.” And it was at that one word, “family,” that this normally stoic young lady broke down and sobbed uncontrollably, as it is the one thing that she longed for.

By far, however, the most emotional moment of my time in China came one night when I was able to meet with a group of older orphaned teens I had watched grow up over a five year period. Every time I would visit their orphanage, I would enjoy getting to know them more. They all seemed so close, such good friends, and they always had smiles for me when I arrived. That night, however, was a night when the kids finally let their guard down. It was a night of real conversation and sharing what it means to grow up as an orphan. Toward the end of the evening we were all in tears. Afterwards, one of the older boys stayed to talk with me privately. I am hesitant to even write of it now as it was such a deeply personal and emotionally raw conversation.I will share, however, that he told me that growing up without a mother or father “hurts more than death.” “

i hope and pray hard that DEAN WILL KNOW the love of a mother and a father.

i ask you to pray along with me. And to also pray for other orphans you know who are in need of a family. Reece´s Rainbow has a list of aging out orphans you can pray over and help give a voice to. Please see here. Please do pick one of them to pray for, along with praying for DEAN.

If you do pray for DEAN, even if it is just for a day, please comment below and let me know. It would be most encouraging to me and my boy to know that others are joining us in prayer for DEAN.

If you do pray for DEAN and another orphan, please also comment below with the name of the other child, so that we may stand with you in prayer as well.

Just one more thing before i sign off, the month of February is when Reece´s Rainbow has their Love Notes campaign, where you can buy love notes and give them as a gift to someone who can then pick an orphan to receive the love notes amount into their adoption grant. Find out more here. May i be so bold as to ask you and your loved one to consider giving Love Notes to grow DEAN´s adoption grant?

You can click on DEAN´s picture or name to go to his profile page on Reece´s Rainbow.

Thank you very much!

syc